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Why we need good relationships!

Healthy relationships are a vital component of your health and wellbeing. Good relationships are a very meaningful part of our lives, and relationships with spouses, children, friends, parents, siblings, work colleagues and friends help to build self-esteem, improve mental and emotional health and help you live a fuller life.

happy peopleWhy do we need good relationships?

As humans we are naturally very sociable. Relationships are important — so important, in fact, that our brains are hardwired to form them. Essentially, we enjoy the company of others and crave positive interactions and meaningful friendships and often some of our relationships feel just as important for our survival as the basic necessities of food and water. There is also a sense of freedom to having good relationships. Rather than spending time and energy overcoming obstacles associated with relationship issues, we remain focused on opportunities and personal development.

Research shows that people with good relationships are likely to have fewer health problems and live longer. On the flip side, those who do not have many social connections tend to show signs of depression and cognitive decline. But good relationships whether they are at home or at work, don’t just happen; you need to invest time and energy into them so that they can provide you with the advice, guidance, love and support that you need.

So it’s proven then – good relationships can:

  • Help you live longer
  • Be able to deal with stress and anxiety
  • Be healthier

When relationships go bad!

But sometimes relationships can break down, leaving you lonely, disappointed and hurt. Or a relationship can turn out to be unhealthy and you know you need to get out quickly. Whether it’s an affair, divorce, separation or a plethora of other issues, the end of a relationship can feel like the worst thing in the world and you end up just feeling numb. And because you might have relied on a partner, close family member or friend to talk to about any problems previously; when they are no longer available, who should you turn to help you get back on your feet again?

Counselling for relationship success

Miriam Bannon of Leamington Spa based counselling practice All About People explains why relationship counselling could be the perfect answer.

“Counselling works so well because often we find it easier to talk to a stranger than to relatives or friends. A trained therapist listens to you and helps you find your own answers to problems, without judging you. The therapist will give you time to talk, cry, shout or just think. It’s an opportunity to look at your problems in a different way, with someone who’ll respect and encourage your opinions and the decisions you make. And because counselling takes place in a calm, civilised and impartial environment, it’s the perfect place for you to explore your feelings about a relationship in greater detail.”

Miriam concludes. “Shouting, anger, conflict, blame and resentment are some of the outward results of a relationship in turmoil. We encourage people to try to seek and find their own solutions to their difficulties. We use active listening skills to hear their story and we then reflect it back to them. This gives couples the opportunity to hear their story in another person’s words, which can be incredibly powerful in seeing events through someone else’s eyes. With the therapists help, the couple or individual can decide the next steps in finding a solution to their issues.”

What our clients say

We are good at what we do, but don’t take our word for it; listen to the words of one of our satisfied clients.

It was a massive personal acceptance to contact AAP for support with my ongoing personal life and helped me just to talk out loud. My counsellor offered me that one on one relationship where I just got to let out emotions whereas I hadn’t been able to before and allowed them to build up to a point where I couldn’t cope anymore. She was brilliant, just real, truthful and I really don’t know how I would have coped without turning to her for the much needed shoulder to cry on. As much as I feel I’m just at the start of my situation and have a long way to go, I feel that now I need to concentrate on joint counselling to work through this hard time but cannot thank my counsellor enough for the support she’s given me.”

Counselling won’t make your relationship issues go away, but it will enable you to find it easier to cope with them and to generally feel happier. To access our professional, specialist and confidential relationship counselling service simply call 01926 882521 or email info@aapcounselling.co.uk

 

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